tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211028150951497830.post5799154525905405605..comments2023-05-07T09:42:32.158-05:00Comments on For {that} Which Matters: Proactive ParentingShannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06303680220706609009noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211028150951497830.post-84238071517922752262009-05-21T15:21:06.647-05:002009-05-21T15:21:06.647-05:00Hahaha! You are so funny. That never actually oc...Hahaha! You are so funny. That never actually occured to me but when I reread it, it does sound kind of gruesome, lol!momsthewordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14519343990735608713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211028150951497830.post-9363678210830551202009-05-20T20:38:33.947-05:002009-05-20T20:38:33.947-05:00Thank you for your precious encouraging words. I a...Thank you for your precious encouraging words. I appreciate them (and you) so much!<br /><br />It's funny but I really have no idea where I found some of the blogs I read. I think some found me, but I know that I found alot through following a comment back, or from someone's blogroll.<br /><br />I pay lots of attention to blogrolls, figuring if I like that person's blog I will probably like the blogs they like, you know?<br /><br />Not sure how I found you either.momsthewordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14519343990735608713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211028150951497830.post-64972869933072939872009-05-20T15:50:32.957-05:002009-05-20T15:50:32.957-05:00As far as kids lying...
First of all, you have to ...As far as kids lying...<br />First of all, you have to learn to not sweat the small stuff. Lying is huge. We have made it perfectly clear that lying gets you in more trouble than doing "the wrong". This is where we had to not worry about the little things. The punishment is for lying. (Punishment for small ones being time out usually. No toys or sibling to play with is quite effective here.) So, if the kids are running in the house and break something, then lie and say it wasn't them, the punishment is for lying, not breaking. We have held pretty strong with that and now the kids are quite forthcoming with their wrongs. I tend to be alot nicer about "little things" than lying and they have learned that. Of course they are 8,8 & 12 now. Hope that helps at least a little.Annenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211028150951497830.post-4375595596294674742009-05-19T23:22:31.187-05:002009-05-19T23:22:31.187-05:00Hi! It is great to "meet you". Thanks for follow...Hi! It is great to "meet you". Thanks for following my blog. You have a great blog! I'm definitely coming back to explore it when I have more time! <br /><br />As far as handling 3 and 4 year olds lying -- that is tricky, but when my son was 4 I was very close to literally pulling my hair out over his behavior. Then we started using the privilege chart (see my post about it here: http://itfeelslikechaos.blogspot.com/2009/03/works-for-me-wednesday-privilege-chart.html) and it saved my sanity, not because he was suddenly an angel all the time, but because I had a plan for dealing with his behavior. I no longer had to yell, but simply say, "I'm sorry you just did that, you need to go move down 2." If he argued or lied about what he did, then it was, "Oh that's too bad, now you need to move down 4."It Feels Like Chaoshttp://itfeelslikechaos.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-211028150951497830.post-87604371254886843362009-05-19T20:38:04.914-05:002009-05-19T20:38:04.914-05:00oh yes, I remember those years. "Did you finish y...oh yes, I remember those years. "Did you finish your dinner?" and "Yes, mommy" but of course you can see the dog eating it. <br /><br />Fortunately they aren't very good liars at that age, lol! They give themselves away!<br /><br />You are doing fine, my dear, I'm sure. Just hang in there and make sure to relax from time to time after they're all in bed.<br /><br />My kids were in bed by 7:30 or 8:00 at the latest at that age. I remember days when I couldn't wait for bedtime, lol!momsthewordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14519343990735608713noreply@blogger.com